Our house in Colorado closed today. I told my husband that the proceeds were in the bank, and he said, "kind of sad." Damn him. It's so hard, and emotional anyway, and to have him feel emotional about it, too, just makes it harder on me. He's supposed to be my rock.
The positives are - no more double mortgage payment, no more water and gas and electric and homeowners associations fee for a house that we don't live in. We don't have to worry about anything going wrong on a house that is two states away.
It's the dreams that we had to give up that are so hard. We were going to live there forever. We moved there and were never going to move. I said over and over, I'm not going to move. Even after Dan got his job offer, I went to lunch with a girlfriend, and said, I'm not moving! She said, I believe you. But the offer was just too good. And Dan really wanted the job. He has to go to work everyday - shouldn't he be happy going there? I think he should. It's only fair. It's just the mind set that got to me - I'm never going to move! Why would I think that? We've always moved. I thought it because that's what he told me - and I believed him. No more.
I'm on the five year plan now. We've never lived any place longer than five years, so that's the plan I'm on. When we talk about doing something to this house I say, will we get our money out of it by using it for five years, or will it increase our house value in five years. But, mostly, it's the emotional toll on me that I'm trying to save. That's what killed me in the Colorado move. Because I was never going to move. Now, I know that we'll move again, so I won't become as emotionally attached as I did there. I can move if I know that it's coming.

And I do know that it is. Dan is only 41! Well, 42 in a couple of months. Hell, if he retires at 62 - that's 20 more years of careers! Will he move on? Guarantee it. He can only go so far where he's at, and if he can go farther in his career somewhere else, he'll want to. I'd love to get the kids through school first - but that's 8 more years - not sure if we can do that.
If my kids are happy, I'm happy. I can be happy anywhere, as long as I have my family. I would love to travel more, to move to new, different places. It's an adventure! I'm having issues here, but that's because I grew up here. And I had so many self-esteem issues growing up. And I obviously still have them. Geez. Get over it, Michelle.